{"id":734,"date":"2015-03-13T20:15:15","date_gmt":"2015-03-13T14:45:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/abhinav.spsdarj.org\/?p=734"},"modified":"2015-03-28T22:38:37","modified_gmt":"2015-03-28T17:08:37","slug":"what-are-the-most-difficult-and-useful-things-people-have-to-learn-in-their-20s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abhinavkr.com\/musings\/2015\/03\/what-are-the-most-difficult-and-useful-things-people-have-to-learn-in-their-20s\/","title":{"rendered":"What are the most difficult and useful things people have to learn in their 20s?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Answer by Anonymous:45 Life Lessons Written by a 90-year-old<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Life isn\u2019t fair, but it\u2019s still good.
\n2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
\n3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
\n4. Your job won\u2019t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
\n5. Don\u2019t buy stuff you don\u2019t need.
\n6. You don\u2019t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
\n7. Cry with someone. It\u2019s more healing than crying alone.
\n8. It\u2019s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
\n9. Save for things that matter.
\n10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
\n11. Make peace with your past so it won\u2019t screw up the present.
\n12. It\u2019s OK to let your children see you cry.
\n13. Don\u2019t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
\n14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn\u2019t be in it.
\n15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye\u2026 But don\u2019t worry; God never blinks.
\n16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
\n17. Get rid of anything that isn\u2019t useful.\u00a0 Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
\n18. Whatever doesn\u2019t kill you really does make you stronger.
\n19. It\u2019s never too late to be happy. But it\u2019s all up to you and no one else.
\n20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don\u2019t take no for an answer.
\n21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.Don\u2019t save it for a special occasion.
\n22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
\n23. Be eccentric now. Don\u2019t wait for old age to wear purple.
\n24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
\n25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
\n26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, \u2018In five years, will this matter?\u2019
\n27. Always choose Life.
\n28. Forgive but don\u2019t forget.
\n29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
\n30. Time heals almost everything. Give Time, time.
\n31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
\n32. Don\u2019t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
\n33. Believe in miracles.
\n34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn\u2019t do.
\n35. Don\u2019t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
\n36. Growing old beats the alternative \u2014 dying young.
\n37. Your children get only one childhood.
\n38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
\n39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
\n40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we\u2019d grab ours back.
\n41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need.
\n42. The best is yet to come\u2026
\n43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
\n44. Yield.
\n45. Life isn\u2019t tied with a bow, but it\u2019s still a gift.What are the most difficult and useful things people have to learn in their 20s?<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Answer by Anonymous:45 Life Lessons Written by a 90-year-old 1. Life isn\u2019t fair, but it\u2019s still good. 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 3. Life is too short not to enjoy it. 4. Your job won\u2019t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. 5. 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