{"id":809,"date":"2015-04-03T22:59:59","date_gmt":"2015-04-03T17:29:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/abhinav.spsdarj.org\/?p=809"},"modified":"2015-04-03T22:59:59","modified_gmt":"2015-04-03T17:29:59","slug":"36-relationship-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abhinavkr.com\/musings\/2015\/04\/36-relationship-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"36 Relationship Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"
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1.<\/span> \u201cAdmit when you\u2019re wrong, shut up when you\u2019re right.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Johnny Storm<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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2.<\/span> \u201cDate someone for a year before taking the next step, whether that be moving in together or getting engaged. People change with the seasons.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-submitted by Tawny Elle Easterling<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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3.<\/span> \u201cThere are two boxes in every relationship: hope and expectation.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\u201cResentment builds when you put petty things into the expectation box (he needs to give me flowers, he needs to take me places, etc). Put petty things in the hope box and be clear about what is in your expectation box.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by Amber Malin<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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-Submitted by Mallory Johnston<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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5.<\/span> \u201cMy dad told me: Don\u2019t be interesting. Be interested. Actually listen to her. It\u2019s by far the best thing you can do. You\u2019d be surprised how many men don\u2019t know this.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by David Kasunick<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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6.<\/span> \u201cYou are not in a movie, you are a real person \u2013 don\u2019t expect other people to treat you like you\u2019re always the star.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Alex Lisette<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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7.<\/span> \u201cDon\u2019t fight about money because after you\u2019ve fought and maybe said mean things to each other, the amount of money in the bank will be the same. \u201c<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Shauna Durham<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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8.<\/span> \u201cHave separate checking accounts!<\/h2>\n

A couple should have a joint account for all household bills, but they should have their own accounts for personal expenses. As long as all the bills are paid and some money is going into a savings account, they should each have a little money to spend as they please.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by John Thomas<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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-Submitted by gracejohnston92<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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10.<\/span> \u201cMy father told me to look how my significant other interacts with other people, especially waiters and servers, while in the getting to know each other stages. He said it\u2019s the best way to see a persons true colors.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Roisin Kilroy<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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11.<\/span> \u201cDon\u2019t marry someone you don\u2019t want your children to be.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by lucyc42c8b3828<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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12.<\/span> \u201cOnce someone told me: \u2018put your finger in your partner\u2019s nose. If it disgusts you, it means you\u2019re not in love.\u2019\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Dinora Agathe Kruja<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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13.<\/span> \u201cKeep the fights clean and the sex dirty.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Becky Hobbs Haler<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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14.<\/span> \u201cLove is like a fart. If you have to force it, it\u2019s probably crap.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Courtney Danielle<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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15.<\/span> \u201cThe best advice I\u2019ve ever got was from my mum: \u2018everyone is at some point an asshole, it\u2019s about finding an asshole you can put up with.\u2019\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by sophies4da1cd301<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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16.<\/span> \u201cChoose your in-laws wisely!\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by esny528<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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17.<\/span> \u201cMy mom once sat me down and very seriously told me: \u2018The first few years of your relationship should be incredible.<\/h2>\n

Not to say that you won\u2019t fight, but you should not be fighting all the damn time. If your partner is upsetting you this much now, imagine what it is going to be like a marriage, two kids, and several years from now. Take your time, people\u2019s tastes change, and it is much easier to throw out a couch than a husband<\/b>.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by Meghan Elizabeth<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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-Submitted by Kimberly Sutton<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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19.<\/span> \u201cIf your boyfriend is always making you cry you have to ask yourself: is he your boyfriend or is he an onion?\u201d<\/h2>\n

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20.<\/span> \u201cRemember, your spouse will still be there after your kids are gone.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Catie Hurley<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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21.<\/span> \u201cIf you\u2019re upset about something that won\u2019t matter in 5 years, you should not be upset about it.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Kady Kidd<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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22.<\/span> \u201cDefinitely go to bed mad. Everyone is an asshole when they\u2019re tired and cranky. Find your perspective and your compassion tomorrow morning and then resume.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Melissa De Lory<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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23.<\/span> \u201cAlways kiss after an argument.<\/h2>\n

Doesn\u2019t have to be a big kiss, just a peck. It signifies the argument is over, you\u2019re moving on, and you still love and appreciate your partner.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by courtneyd10<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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24.<\/span> \u201cWhen you disagree, stick to the issue at hand. Don\u2019t drag up old fights, old flames, or old issues.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by laurenc21<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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25.<\/span> \u201cThe best advice I ever got was from my grandmother. I asked her if she and my grandfather were still in love after all these years. \u2018Yes,\u2019 she said, \u2018We can argue about the little things because we agree on all of the big things.\u2019\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Casey Cooke<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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26.<\/span> \u201cAlways sleep in the same bed, no matter how angry.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Stephanie West<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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27.<\/span> \u201cHow do you know when it\u2019s over? When you feel more in love with your memories than with the person in front of you.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Chelsg<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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28.<\/span> \u201cThank them for everything, even for the little things they do.\u201d<\/h2>\n

Saying \u2018thank you for emptying the dishwasher\u2019 isn\u2019t just about the dishes- it says I notice you, I recognize that you work to make our home better, I value your efforts enough to call them out, and I do not take those same efforts for granted. No one will ever get tired of being thanked, and at the same time it fosters an atmosphere of gratitude in the home, you may find yourself being thanked more often in return.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by Jess Ballinger<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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29.<\/span> \u201cRemember that the way you want to be loved is not always the same way that your partner does.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Amanda Hogan<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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31.<\/span> \u201cTalk to each other. Talk about silly things, about serious topics, about anything and everything under the sun.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Arlene B. Nuestro<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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32.<\/span> \u201cMy twin brother and his husband are the best. husbands. ever.<\/h2>\n

I watch them. Twin Bro is in medical school, Hubby is getting a Ph. D., so they\u2019re super busy all the time. They have study dates at the library. They have a cleaning service come in once a month because a clean house is more relaxing than a dirty one. They talk about their feelings all the time. They ask for what they need. They changed their furniture\u2014went from a couch and recliner to a sectional\u2014so they\u2019d be more likely to snuggle with each other since they know that\u2019s important.<\/b>\u201d<\/p>\n

-Submitted by Jennifer Nelson<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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33.<\/span> \u201cMy mom told me once that the secret of marriage is not to commit to someone for the rest of your life, it\u2019s to commit to trying 100% every day .\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by katys4deff4ddd<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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34.<\/span> \u201cFrom my grandma: \u2018Always remember the beginning.\u2019\u201d<\/h2>\n

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35.<\/span> \u201cFight like you\u2019re both siblings, tend and tidy like parents, challenge ideas like strangers, laugh like best friends, and love and forgive like long lost partners.\u201d<\/h2>\n

-Submitted by Dea Cothran<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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1. \u201cAdmit when you\u2019re wrong, shut up when you\u2019re right.\u201d -Submitted by Johnny Storm 2. \u201cDate someone for a year before taking the next step, whether that be moving in together or getting engaged. People change with the seasons.\u201d -submitted by Tawny Elle Easterling 3. \u201cThere are two boxes in every relationship: hope and expectation.\u201d…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-809","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-quote-motivate"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4KGvB-d3","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":947,"url":"https:\/\/abhinavkr.com\/musings\/2016\/05\/from-a-therapists-office-wall\/","url_meta":{"origin":809,"position":0},"title":"From a therapist\u2019s office wall","author":"Abhinav","date":"May 31, 2016","format":false,"excerpt":"I don\u2019t like the phrase \u201cA cry for help.\u201d I just don\u2019t like how it sounds. 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